Ladies we have all heard that we should have a list a non negotiable list of things that we will not compromise when we are looking for Mr Right vs Mr Right Now.
Over the years I have made my own list as well including
*the fact he must Love and Know Jesus.
*he must have legal income.
*must be able to deal with my artistic free spirit.

Well over the past few months I have discovered a few more deal breakers that include but are not limited to this list. After going out on a date with a dude that embodied all the characteristics of a true gentleman. Shouts out to Young Jay.
I have rethought some of the deal breakers and I'm listing the newer ones below
(now please note I observe EVERYTHING none of this is from personal experience but experiences I've witnessed that have caused me to reevaluate certain things...ya know?!?):
*when we go out. Please make sure I'm in the car before you put your seat belt......I'm not saying open the door and assist me in everytime. But could you at least be sure I am IN the car before you are belted in?!?

*i don't care how tall your friend is.......if we're on a date I shouldn't be sitting in the back. Bottom line.....its a date!

*and if we're on a date, and its the first one unless we have a bunch of friends in common, let's not make it a group thing especially if its only YOUR group!

*please please please don't think that taking me to an open bar/free food event is a date...homie we are haning at best....

*if we are on a date/outing and you see your other chick/sidechick/main chick...don't ignore me until she leaves...you'd do better introducing me or acting as if you don't see her....cause i see you seeing her....i'm not dumb...

*oh and telling a chick you dig her only to not attempt to call her or see until someone else brings her up....deal breaker homie...you don't like her...hell you don't even know her....

i've observed several other mistakes being made by guys..and i will update this on a semi-regular basis...and ladies...don't think you are off the hook....i will be adding a seperate list like....
*if you spend the whole evening texting then disappear for an hour come back and have to go meet your "sister" he shouldn't mess with you again...bottom line...who do you think is THAT stupid boo?!?!

musings....as usual

soooo....
i first must say that i had no idea i had readers....and commenters even! i'm such a loser....pray for me...lol!!!

now after that...i've been listening to the Tweet Fan Station on Yahoo music...and it's playing all of this great 90's girl groups...Jade, SWV, Zhane...and many others...

after listening to these ladies of the 90's and thinking over some of the greater songs i'm just thinking them over...

that coupled with the fact that my friend that i am talking to right now...i mean i don't know how else to put it...i know i sound like someone's granny but it is what it is folks....anyway he and i had a conversation this morning and i'm attempting to process it...but it dealt with the former and i am not sure how much i will accept that they are still in constant contact with one another....
i mean like there are those that i am still in contact with from my past because they are in the same social circle and there is a need for a level of social decorum though i am not yet above dogging him out when given the chance....i said social decorum...not maturity....

anyway listening to all of these great songs and thinking over the words...i'm just a bit confused as to where i should go with these things because i know that i am still relatively knew to the situation and that there are always going to be loose ends that need to be tied up...as well as i can't expect that he cut her off (even though i think that every one needs to severe ties with exes for at least six months in order to make sure that everyone fully understand that the break up did indeed take place.... i mean really do we need the chance for there to be misunderstandings?!?!)

anyway i don't know...i wish that i wasn't the type that thought so damn much....and i mean i reallllllly think too damn much on things...but right now i've gave him a little bit of an indication that i wasn't totally okay...he asks me three times....and of course i said nothing...nothing....and then......

exactly...i tipped him off...and now....





silence....


hmmmm....



dah well.....any suggestions?!? i promise now that i've learned a little more about this blogging thing i am getting the updates that i have comments i will be around to respond better than before.....scouts honor....

no lurking please....this is my space for thoughting.....talk to me....